How to Embrace Life When it Sucks

Something that has been coming up lately (for many people around me and many of my clients) are the days that just suck!

Let’s face it. Sometimes life is confusing and hard, and the thing is emotions need to be felt and not ignored. Emotions are always a gauge for us. They let us know when we are not in divine alignment. The problem I see is that too many time people push them down, suck it up, or just ignore the lower emotions all together. We have to learn to start embracing both the light and the dark within ourselves.

If we want to get healthy as a collective we have to start understanding that we are here to experience both the light and the dark. How can we possibly understand the bliss if we’re afraid to feel loss?

My guides have been telling me lately to start working with, speaking about and teaching on the “dysfunctional human condition.” I’m not completely sure what they mean by that yet, but I think we need to start with understanding our own deepest darkest emotions.

On my own journey of self discovery I had to look at some hard truths about myself. Too many times I heard the verse:


Matthew 7:3-5 New International Version (NIV)

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.


I used to get frustrated, and think “why can’t THEY change!” but what I realized is that this verse above is completely true. If we want change to happen, it has to start inside ourselves. We have to look at our own “darkness” – the plank in our own eye- (this is also called shadow work.)

The biggest thing you need to know is that THIS DOES NOT MEAN ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU! Being brave enough to really look at and begin to understand the lower emotions and to learning to work through those emotion and then and learn to forgive the people or the circumstances and most of all yourself; is what will lead you to a deeper awareness of yourself. Healing can occur and will lead you to an amazing freedom where you’ll begin to embody grace in your life.

In this video Kristen and I talk about “Embracing the Suck” we talk about how to deal with emotions, how to be where we are, and to honor the phases of life that we all go through.

We all have fear/ anger/ anxiety and panic, and learning how to deal with these emotions is critical if you want to learn to truly create a life you love.

If you’re struggling with Self-Acceptance, know that you’re not alone. Join the Embodied Grace Facebook Community to be among like-minded souls!

Till next time~

Jennifer Lonnberg

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